I keep trying to figure out why when people get into a relationship that they try to take on their partners likes and dislikes. The person your with fell for you for well, who you are. The person that first sat across from them when they met you. It is good to have differences. Don't get me wrong it is necessary to have some similarities but a relationship needs those differences. You need to be able to continue to be who you are and not what you think your partner wants you to be.
Your job in a relationship is never about changing the person you are with. Your job is to bring out the best in the person you are with. You can't change them, and if you want to change them you are not in the right relationship. You can only change you. You can only change how you react to people.
So many people end relationships because they feel smothered. Why do they feel smothered, because you changed who you are. You changed your job. You are trying to change them. STOP!!!!
One of the most important things in a relationship is being able to walk that fine line between being a part of a couple and remaining who you are. You have to feel secure enough in who you are and do things both together and apart.
No one wants to have someone at their heels 24/7. That may be how it is in the beginning but that is not how it will always be. I know as a women when it hits that point at first in the relationship you start to wonder is everything ok? Stop worrying. Worry when it doesn't get to that point.
Everyone needs that time to be on their own, doing their own thing, being with their friends. Those times let them recharge. Those times let them not feel smothered. Those times apart help strengthen the relationship you are in.
I know, how can you be together if you are apart? You are not apart all the time, you are finding balance. You can be the greatest person in the world but if you don't let yourself or your partner be who they are, enjoy the things that they enjoy or spend time with people away from you, they are going to choose to leave for good with out you. Then you will sit back and wonder why. You will replay your whole relationship and pick out all the wonderful things that you have done, all the things you have given up, and still wonder why, still wonder how. During your self reflection you will have found your answer. You won't recognize the answer because you don't want to. Your answer lies in the part of all the things you have given up. You gave up on who you are. You changed who you are and your job in the relationship. I know it sucks to see that. I also know it sucks to admit it but that is the truth. If you can't see it then think about this. Sometimes the why doesn't matter. It is what it is, you can't worry about the why and just move on.